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Showing posts with label Resistance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Resistance. Show all posts

Friday, August 16, 2013

Navigating the Winds of Change

Change. Sometimes we come to think of it as a 6 letter dirty word. I am not referring to the kind in your pocket, but the kind that can take us out of our comfort zone, push us into doing something we weren’t planning on or get in the way of our routine, seemingly taking us off course. But what if that change actually IS the course? What if we are not meant to be static? How would it feel if like the wind of a soft breeze we let change flow through us without the usual resistance?

These are interesting questions that may upon first read make you feel uncomfortable. But I am going to challenge you to take a long, hard look at the changes that have come in your lifetime. Think about how much you may have resisted something changing and then how it turned out for you in the long run. The resistance that we feel to change is simply the fear of the unknown. But if we can train our minds to start embracing the unknown (with some heartfelt practice) some of, if not all, of that fear can be dissipated. Think about surprises, do you enjoy them? That is actually excitement about the unknown. And what is behind that excitement is the promise of something new, the possibility of expansion on some level, the hope of having something good that you didn’t have before. Those are the same feelings that can be applied to change in our lives. It just takes some conscious choosing to so.

On the flip side there are some folks who in fact do not like surprises. If this is you, know that how you feel is OK. But ask yourself if that aversion to surprises feels good to you? Do you desire to find that place inside of you that gets lit up at the thought of a surprise? If so, you can try this simple formula. Think of a time when someone did surprise you, maybe someone threw a surprise party for you and you didn’t like it because you don’t like being the center of attention. So you know the reason why you didn’t like it but then ask yourself how long that uncomfortable feeling lasted as opposed to how you felt overall with a night that was perhaps spent with friends and family in a time of conversation and laughter.

This formula can be applied to any area in your life where you may have experienced change. Think about how long the discomfort actually lasted. And notice how much of the discomfort actually came from the anticipation of the change rather than of the change itself. Often we turn ourselves into fortune tellers, deciding that we know just how awful an impending change is going to be. And more often than not that is simply not the case. Further, it’s important to note if we are in fact reacting to the reality of the situation or something we may have exaggerated in our mind.

The point to be recognized is that even if moments and events characterized by change come with some discomfort, they can also come with renewal, learning and growth. Somehow we have come to view change as synonymous with “bad.” But that is simply a perspective and perspectives can be changed with some awareness and conscious effort to do so. Discomfort comes from the not knowing. But if we can ask ourselves to turn the “what if’s” into good things; what if this change brings me even better circumstances, what if this change leads me to meet one of my lifetime best friends, what if this job change leads me to an even better work experience with more money, than the unknown can begin to take a new form, a form that is exciting and fresh and can add more richness and fullness to our lives. 

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Pay Attention To What Shows Up In Your Life

So there seems to be a cat family of sorts that hangs around my street. I don't know where they come from, they don't have collars and they didn't used to be around. But in the last 6 months or so these cats can be spotted walking around in mine and my neighbors' backyards. Now I am not a cat person. I am definitely an animal lover but for some reason I just don't get cats and have never been a fan of them. And after I spotted one perusing my yard the other day I thought "figures, not a cat person and what do I have running around in my yard all the time?." And then I literally laughed out loud.

Of course the things that bother me are going to show up in my life! The fact that something I do not like shows up almost daily in my personal space is definitely a message for me. It's a chance for me to practice tolerance, acceptance and even love. Doesn't mean that all of a sudden today I am a cat lover. But as I reflect on what shows up in my life, on areas where I feel resistance come up, I see that I am given opportunities to practice the qualities that I consider to be for my highest good. I can be tolerant of all living creatures and their right to roam the earth. I can accept that I don't have to like something as much as I like other things but that the things I like the least don't need to cause resentment in me. And I can practice love of life and the fact that I prefer to operate from a place of love, not hate or even dislike.

To sit in the space of resenting those cats in my yard and getting angry or even just annoyed about it because I don't like cats only leaves me with negative emotions in my body.  But what serves my being the most? Practicing love and acceptance and tolerance. It doesn't matter one bit to those cats how I feel about them! But it DOES matter to me what I fill my spirit with. And that in the allowing of those cats to be, I was giving an opportunity to myself to get rid of negativity and practice the qualities that leave me being the happiest me.

So I ask you, what is showing up in your life that you are feeling resentment about? Could there be a lesson in there for you? Are there areas of resistance in your life that may be placed there for a reason? What emotional choices can you make in these areas that serve to make you feel the best? You may be surprised at what you find! Have a wonderful day and walk the path of least resistance!


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